Irish dating customs
Dublin-born opera singer Dr Veronica Dunne, who is in her 80s, harks back to an age of innocence.She remembers the hops in her local tennis club in the 1940s."They finished at 10.30pm or 11.30pm and then you went straight home. So at the last dance the man asked you where you lived and if you lived too far away they wouldn't cycle home with you! "Young women have less respect for themselves these days," she says at once."Mystique is always more interesting." Former rally driver and Driving Academy owner Rosemary Smith, who is in her 70s, agrees that women are much more forward these days.As for sex, I think the old rules were simply breaking down, and no new rules were really in place.This made some of my generation very promiscuous." The disco soon made room for the slow set movement of the 1980s.
it was totally off-putting for him, and it was off-putting for me too." In later years, Rosemary remembers going out with "this gorgeous young man" without her brother in tow.In Ireland, a man would never ask you out; relationships began with a drunken fumble and, if he called, you were most likely 'going out', but it was never discussed, and barely acknowledged."It was almost as if there was something shameful to desire," she continues.The Swinging Sixties it was not - Ireland was a late starter in that regard.The woman who spoke to me about dating in the 1970s wishes to remain anonymous, probably because she's one of the few women who will admit that she didn't belong to a generation of virginal brides.