Black and white dating issues
A good leader sets direction for the team, but doesn’t dismiss the voices of those following him.
Recognize that you must gain her trust before you get her submission, and if you do something to betray her trust, you can’t be upset at her lack of desire to submit at that point. However, if you find a good man, and he shows the ability to be a good leader, let him lead.
It’s another ugly stereotype, and there are plenty of successful, educated, self-motivated Black women out there. See.” Unfortunately, however, this comes off to men as not wanting a man at all.
Some of these women use “I don’t need a man” to say: “Hey, we’re not all like that. You’re successful, stable and have enough self-love that you don’t need a man, but you want one, right?
It ties in historically with the above issues with White women traditionally being painted as more docile and Black women having to fill male roles that White women just haven’t had to fill. However, what about the man who does not have good leadership skills, the man, who if followed, could lead a woman astray, the man who is weak-minded and weak-willed, the man who is not a good man?
A Black woman is not going to submit until she’s had enough time to see what type of man she’s dealing with and if he reveals himself to be a man not worth submitting to, then she will not.
Before you go off or catch an attitude, ask yourself: Is there a better way to say this? He may be more likely to listen, and if he doesn’t hear you out, then he lacks communication skills and not someone you should bother with anyway.
This notion comes from the age old “angry, black woman” idea.
Black men have used this as a reason why they prefer the more “calm, level-headed” White woman.
You’ll see how quick we are to point out our issues with the other gender, but rarely accept hard truths about our gender or do anything to change them.
What if we started thinking of solutions, instead of just the problems?